The Real Key To Getting Over Your Partner’s Past
Let’s say you want to build a house. So you go the bank and take out a loan. You buy a plot of land. You buy lumber, siding, concrete, etc. You find some house-building books and plans, and talk to...
View ArticleThe Difference Between Normal Jealousy and Obsessive Jealousy
Let me clear something up right off the bat: I don’t like the word “normal.” What the hell is “normal” anyway? And who’s to say what’s “normal” and what’s not? And why do so many of us aspire to be a...
View ArticleGet my new e-book for FREE on Amazon (for a limited time!)
Today’s the day! After several months of revisions, editing, mulling it over, crumpling up and tossing drafts into the wastebasket, walking over to the wastebasket and de-crumpling, etc. I’m pleased to...
View ArticleOvercoming Feelings of Loneliness and Neediness in Relationships
NOTE: The following is an excerpt from my newly released e-book, Everyday Joy: Or, How To Be Happier and Healthier, and Party All The Time. Although this article does not deal with retroactive jealousy...
View ArticleVIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”
Greetings from beautiful Chiang Mai, Thailand! Lately I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do when/if they encounter what I call “trigger” people… A “trigger person” is...
View ArticleVIDEO: Try This Quick And Easy Gratitude Exercise For Overcoming Retroactive...
A few months ago I began a daily gratitude journal (which might sound hokey and new-agey, but bear with me…) The results were interesting to say the least. My experience with my gratitude journal...
View ArticleWhy Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist
Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s past memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on their former lovers, or...
View Article5 Books That Will Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with some relief. Some were very good, others were just OK, and many others weren’t helpful at...
View ArticleSetting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement...
Happy New Year from Chiang Mai, Thailand! I originally posted this article over on my personal website, but I thought it would be appropriate to share here as well. If you’re suffering from...
View ArticleIs Sexual Jealousy Natural?
When dealing with retroactive jealousy it’s tempting to go down the intellectual rabbit hole in an attempt at arriving at some clarity, peace of mind, direction. Although I’ve argued that it can be...
View Article“I Can’t Stop Stalking My Wife’s Past On Facebook:” Retroactive Jealousy And...
In many ways there’s never been a better, or worse, time to be dealing with retroactive jealousy. Unlike decades earlier, with the advent of the internet the average RJ sufferer can find a wealth of...
View Article“Am I Dealing With Retroactive Jealousy, Or Conflicting Values?”
Since I launched this site two years ago, hundreds of people have written to me asking the same question in different ways. That question goes something like this… “My partner is amazing in every other...
View ArticleHow Being Vulnerable Can Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
A few months ago I broke my face. Well, not my whole face, but a crucial part of my face, anyway. One wrong turn on a motorbike in Thailand, and I ended up fracturing my nasal bone, leaving a healthy...
View ArticleSleep: Your Secret Weapon For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
About a year ago, one of my closest friends became a father for the first time. And ever since, between running his own business, being forced to travel regularly, trying to maintain a healthy...
View Article“Chasing Amy” and Retroactive Jealousy
For a condition that affects so many people around the world at one time or another, there aren’t many books, songs, and films that deal with retroactive jealousy. With some notable exceptions–John...
View ArticleMailbag: How Do You Compete With Your Partner’s Ex?
When you hear the word “settling,” what comes to mind? “Settling down?” “Settling for someone?” “Settling in?” What? When I hear the word “settling,” I cringe. To me, “settling” in the context of...
View ArticleVIDEO: “Does Your Partner’s Past Matter?”
I woke up this morning to discover that the enrolment for my online course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past” is currently sitting at 300 (!) students. That’s a lot. This is more than I could have hoped...
View ArticleWhy Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist
Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s past memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on their former lovers, or...
View ArticleUse The 80-20 Principle To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy Twice As Fast
Over a century ago, an Italian economist unlocked one of the most powerful, universally-applicable principles for achieiving growth and success ever discovered. And it was all thanks to his garden. His...
View ArticleMailbag: When A Jealous Boyfriend Won’t Admit He’s Jealous
Today’s letter comes to us from a South African reader we’ll call “M,” whose jealous boyfriend won’t admit that he’s jealous: Dear Zachary, My boyfriend has retroactive jealousy and has admitted he...
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